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The Marvelous Mr. Cundari?

There's a warm feeling of recognition when you're actively being pushed to leave your box of solitude. Are they friends if they're not forcing you to act against your self-imposed guardrails? To me, it means your presence is wanted. Wanted in a way that, without you, their own night would be nothing more than an empty post-shift bar hang. I feel gloomy every time I'm forced to join the rest of the group, especially with a Costco pumpkin pie in my fridge and my recent attachment to the TV show, The Marvelous Mrs. Maisel . Of course, after the intersection of a pint or two of beer and a good song, my gloom turns into a curiosity about what comes next. For a monthly tradition, we'll go to a goth night so we can lurk behind the attractive and young people the International brings in. I'll see a girl or two there and daydream about who they are, what kind of interaction we could have. Nothing sexual for the most part, but a nod to their ability to stand out in a very...

Moving Sideways

What brings two people together?

Similarities. Differences. Sexual appeal. Mental pull. Goals. Motivations. Inspiration. Convenience. 

The list goes on. But what can bring them together can ultimately tear them apart, no matter how strong or deep the underlying bond.

I understand now.

Two people. Neither has a grasp of what comes next. What they want. What they need.

Neither tethered to a goal worth chasing. Apathetic to the daily wake-up reminder to find purpose. Both conditioned themselves to keep their distance from people, from hope, out of instinct more than a choice. 

They met with recognition as opposed to passion. An understanding. Comfort in being with someone who gets you for you.

The days became the same. 

As one steps back and recognizes their potential for more, the other's nature overgrew and eventually balanced out. Not because they meant to. These things tend to happen when sedentary meets momentum. 

It's not "right place, wrong time." They were in the right place. They were at the right time. It just wasn't for reasons they understood at the time.

They didn't move forward or backward. 

Together, they moved sideways. 

This connection needed to happen. For both of them. 

It showed them what was real and what never was. It left them with something — perspective, maybe. Something to carry into whatever comes next.

They may still love each other. But it's different now. 

They may still find their way back to one another. But it's harder now.

One can only wish the other well. 

That is understanding. 

That is love.

"I no longer love her, that is certain, but maybe I love the pain of having loved her." - Franz Kafka